When you are dealing with a toxic individual like Alec Baldwin and you've got a kid to protect, it takes a lot of effort to explain things so the kid gets it right. Fact: verbal abuse is not right. Fact: kids have a right to understand this is wrong and not have the truth sugarcoated for them. "Daddy didn't really mean it" is a lie. Kids know Daddy damn well meant it. Result: cognitive dissonance.
The upside is if you tell the kid the truth: "Dad was wrong. He should never talk to you like that." then you give room for resilience to spring forth if you follow it by saying, "Daddy loves you but he doesn't know how to show it, he was never taught that lesson."
Kids can be taught coping mechanisms if they deal with the truth. It's a lot harder to cope with court ordered bullshit: never say anything bad about the other parent. This therapeutic jurisprudence is dysfunctional. Judges should be ashamed forcing mothers to spout the party line about dad. Moms are thrown in jail for telling the truth. The truth is: Alec Baldwin is a an abuser who loves his daughter and hasn't got a clue why he is abusive or what to do about it. Shirking his toxic stew off on "parental alienation" is a copout.
It's the same old, same old - blame the mother.
Kids - listen up. You are learning great life lessons here and it isn't so bad to do so. Parents don't know how to parent very well at times. They are damaged goods. I believe Alec loves his daughter. I believe he doesn't know compassion, empathy or patience. He is an abusive bully. I suspect his daughter will meet many more in life and know how to handle them. Hopefully not so many and not so public.
Your mom can do a lot to help others. She can role model fighting back against abusers in family court.
Kim, speak out. Thousands of sons and daughters of the Alec Baldwins need you.
